Leadership Part 3

Integrity (“wearing yourself inside out” John C. Maxwell)

“Honesty is shaping our words to reality, Integrity is shaping reality to our words. Honesty is telling the truth. Integrity is living the truth.”

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

How many have know someone who has told you what you ‘should’ or ‘should not’ do, yet they do it themselves? What is your response?

• On the other hand, how many of you have someone in your life that you greatly admire?
• Why do you admire them?
• What is it about them that draws you to them?
• People follow people who live who they are – whether it is good or bad.

Everyone is looking for a place to belong, someone they can trust, someone who is who they say they are and those people can be found in the wrong circles also.

Stephen Stoned

Acts 6:8-15 (New Century Version)

8 Stephen was richly blessed by God who gave him the power to do great miracles and signs among the people.9 But some people were against him. They belonged to the synagogue of Free Men[a] (as it was called), which included people from Cyrene, Alexandria, Cilicia, and Asia. They all came and argued with Stephen.

10 But the Spirit was helping him to speak with wisdom, and his words were so strong that they could not argue with him.11 So they secretly urged some men to say, “We heard Stephen speak against Moses and against God.”

12 This upset the people, the elders, and the teachers of the law. They came and grabbed Stephen and brought him to a meeting of the leaders. 13 They brought in some people to tell lies about Stephen, saying, “This man is always speaking against this holy place and the law of Moses.14 We heard him say that Jesus from Nazareth will destroy this place and that Jesus will change the customs Moses gave us.”15 All the people in the meeting were watching Stephen closely and saw that his face looked like the face of an angel.

Creating Positive Change – Making Things Happen
“If you don’t like something – change it. If you can’t change it – change the way you think about it”

Proverbs 23:7:

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”

• Our thoughts have creative ability.
• You cannot have a positive life and create positive change with a negative mind.

How To Get It All Done

Priorities – Putting the first things first

1. Write down your dreams (dreams for your life and dream you dream at night)
2. Write down three areas in life for improvement. (Grades, get along with sister, be on time)
3. Write a plan or one way that you can make that happen – take responsibility for your actions or lack of.
4. Find a friend who is on fire and run with them.
5. Find a person older than you, someone you respect that will help you with your plan. Someone who will encourage you and ‘remind’ you!

“I’d rather be a failure at something I love than successful at something I don’t”

“You can’t try to do things. You simply must do them”

“Success is not built upon what we achieve, it’s built upon effort.” – Matthew Barnett

Influence – Who’s Following Who?
Peer Pressure (Knowing who you are)

Here is another way to look at it. People don’t follow people who give into peer pressure. They want a leader not a follower. You will never help you friends out or lead them closer to God if all you do is fall into peer pressure or do what they do.

David’s Wife
David did not allow the influence of his wife dissuade him from following the Lord. Micah, David’s wife was embarrassed be her husband and his display in public, worshiping God. Her womb was closed – she was described as the ‘daughter of Saul’, Should’ve been described as the ‘wife of David’.

“Greatness is not what great people say about you. Greatness is what ordinary people, who can benefit you nothing, say about you.” – Matthew Barnett

To look like Him you have to begin to think like Him

Jesus CHOSE to forgive

1. At the foot of the cross no one seemed very sorry. There was no justice at his trial, His response “Father forgive them, for they do not know what they are doig” SHOULD BE OURS TOO.
2. A mandate to forgive, it’s not an option.
Ephesians 4:32, Colossians 3:13
3. Forgiving doesn’t necessarily mean we will want to spend or vacations with them, but it does mean that we release the bitterness in our hearts concerning what they have done.
4. How has the Lord forgiving me? Completely and unconditionally – no strings attached.
5. My sins (MANY) will not be held against me and nobody will even know what I did. (Psalms 103:12)
6. So I should not hold others responsible for what they did to me… I will hold nothing against them.
7. I will not tell other people, not even my closest friends, what they did to me.
Different when you tell ONE person because your are looking for HELP than telling people because you want someone to take sides with you – PUNISH THEM.

1 Samuel 25:32-34
David, before he was made king was ready to take revenge on Nabal. A man who refused to help him in his time of need. But God sent Abigail, just in time to appeal to David.

How man times has God sent someone to you and it only made you mad? They don’t understand, etc.

Matthew 5:7

“Blessed are the merciful for they will be shown mercy”

God is merciful….. God is just.

The heart of the gospel is related to these two characteristics. Because He is merciful, God does not want to punish us; because He is just, He must punish us because we have sinned against Him. So how can both of these side of God be satisfied at the same time?
The answer is the crux of the gospel message: He sent His Son, Jesus Christ to die on the cross for us. “We all alike sheep have gone astray each of us has turned to his own way; an the Lord has laid on him the iniquity of us all” Isaiah 53:6

Because God punished Jesus for our sins, He can now be true to Himself and still be truly merciful to us.

This is how revival will come
This is how freedom comes
This is how the hurt are healed
This is what the world will see and be attracted to

Isaiah 58 (New Century Version)
1 The Lord says, “Shout out loud. Don’t hold back.
Shout out loud like a trumpet.
Tell my people what they have done against their God;
tell the family of Jacob about their sins.
2 They still come every day looking for me
and want to learn my ways.
They act just like a nation that does what is right,
that obeys the commands of its God.
They ask me to judge them fairly.
They want God to be near them.
3 They say, ‘To honor you we had special days when we fasted,
but you didn’t see.
We humbled ourselves to honor you,
but you didn’t notice.’ ”

But the Lord says, “You do what pleases yourselves on these special days,
and you are unfair to your workers.
4 On these special days when you fast, you argue and fight
and hit each other with your fists.
You cannot do these things as you do now
and believe your prayers are heard in heaven.
5 This kind of special day is not what I want.
This is not the way I want people to be sorry for what they have done.
I don’t want people just to bow their heads like a plant
and wear rough cloth and lie in ashes to show their sadness.
This is what you do on your special days when you fast,
but do you think this is what the Lord wants?

6 “I will tell you the kind of fast I want:
Free the people you have put in prison unfairly
and undo their chains.
Free those to whom you are unfair
and stop their hard labor.
7 Share your food with the hungry
and bring poor, homeless people into your own homes.
When you see someone who has no clothes, give him yours,
and don’t refuse to help your own relatives.
8 Then your light will shine like the dawn,
and your wounds will quickly heal.
Your God will walk before you,
and the glory of the Lord will protect you from behind.
9 Then you will call out, and the Lord will answer.
You will cry out, and he will say, ‘Here I am.’

“If you stop making trouble for others,
if you stop using cruel words and pointing your finger at others,
10 if you feed those who are hungry
and take care of the needs of those who are troubled,
then your light will shine in the darkness,
and you will be bright like sunshine at noon.
11 The Lord will always lead you.
He will satisfy your needs in dry lands
and give strength to your bones.
You will be like a garden that has much water,
like a spring that never runs dry.
12 Your people will rebuild the old cities that are now in ruins;
you will rebuild their foundations.
You will be known for repairing the broken places
and for rebuilding the roads and houses.

13 “You must obey God’s law about the Sabbath
and not do what pleases yourselves on that holy day.
You should call the Sabbath a joyful day
and honor it as the Lord’s holy day.
You should honor it by not doing whatever you please
nor saying whatever you please on that day.
14 Then you will find joy in the Lord,
and I will carry you to the high places above the earth.
I will let you eat the crops of the land your ancestor Jacob had.”
The Lord has said these things.

Matthew 4:17:

”Repent, for the kingdom of heaven is at hand.”

• Repent = to think differently
• At hand = to draw near
• Change you thinking because Heaven is right here. But you cannot see it if your thinking doesn’t change.


One Response

  1. Hey wow i read all 3 of the leadership blogs that you have wrote so far and they are really good i like it alot these blogs really are helping me thank you for being a good friend
    love haley

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